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# Rachel Skye

Confidence Coach for High-Achieving Women 

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- [Journal](https://rachelskye.com/journal/)
- [7 Signs You're a High-Achiever Who Still Doesn't Feel Confident](https://rachelskye.com/7-signs-youre-a-high-achiever-who-still-doesnt-feel-confident/) - Overprepared, over-apologizing, still waiting for permission. If this sounds like you despite your resume, here's what's actually going on.
- [How to Build Confidence as a Woman Leader (When You Already "Have It Together")](https://rachelskye.com/how-to-build-confidence-as-a-woman-leader-when-you-already-have-it-together/) - Most confidence advice doesn't work for women already leading teams. Here's what actually builds confidence when you look successful but don't feel it.
- [Being Intimidating Isn’t Your Problem—It’s Theirs](https://rachelskye.com/being-intimidating-isnt-your-problem-its-theirs/) - Let’s get one thing straight: if someone finds you intimidating, that’s not your red flag—it’s theirs. It doesn’t mean you’re “too much.” It means they’re not enough woman (or man) to handle your energy. And honestly? That’s their cross to bear. Not yours. Listen. I’ve had people avoid me like I walk around with a
- [You Don't Have a Body Problem. You Have an Opinion Problem.](https://rachelskye.com/you-dont-have-a-body-problem-you-have-an-opinion-problem/) - You think the problem is your body. It's not. It's whose voice is running your head. Here's what's actually happening -- and how to get your body back.
- [Compassion Doesn't Mean Letting People Treat You Like Sh*t](https://rachelskye.com/compassion-doesnt-mean-letting-people-treat-you-like-sht/) - Let's talk about something I see all the time—especially with women who have high emotional intelligence. You're so damn good at understanding people. You can see exactly why someone acts the way they do. You get the trauma. You understand the trigger. You can trace their behavior back to the wound. And because you understand
- [Why Feeling Sexy Isn’t About the Mirror](https://rachelskye.com/why-feeling-sexy-isnt-about-the-mirror/) - You can have the abs. You can have the cute underwear. You can have the perfect lighting and angles. And still feel disconnected, frozen, or deeply uncomfortable in your own skin. Because feeling sexy isn’t about what’s reflected in the mirror—it’s about how safe you feel in your body. And I want to be real
- [Love Your Job But Don’t Let It Own You](https://rachelskye.com/love-your-job-but-dont-let-it-own-you/) - What if your job wasn’t who you are but simply what you do to support the life you actually want? Let me be clear: It’s totally okay to love your job. To find purpose in it. To feel proud of the work you do. That’s a beautiful thing. But your job isn’t the only thing that defines your purpose or your identity. You
- [Stop Hiding Behind Labels—Discover Who You Really Are](https://rachelskye.com/stop-hiding-behind-labels-discover-who-you-really-are/) - I see a lot of women describing themselves with labels...Mom. Entrepreneur. Empath. Healer. Boss. Survivor. Nothing wrong with any of those. But here’s the problem babe, they say what you do or what’s happened to you, not who you actually are. And sometimes we cling to labels because without them, we don’t know who the hell we are underneath. Character is
- [Starting Over: 3 Ways to Trust Yourself When Rebuilding Your Life](https://rachelskye.com/starting-over-3-ways-to-trust-yourself-when-rebuilding-your-life/) - Starting over sounds empowering… until you’re actually standing in the ashes wondering where the hell to begin. A relationship that ended. A career that no longer fits. A dream that fell apart. Everyone loves to talk about “fresh starts,” but they skip the part where you’re staring at your old life in pieces, trying to
- [How to Trust Yourself Again (After Life Gut-Punched You)](https://rachelskye.com/how-to-trust-yourself-again-after-life-gut-punched-you/) - Let’s talk about that slippery little thing called self-trust. Not the performative "I've got this!" voice you use in front of your coworkers or your mom. I mean deep-in-your-gut, full-body, I-can-hear-my-own-inner-truth-even-when-the-world-is-screaming-at-me trust. That kind. But here’s the truth most people won’t say out loud: It’s hard to trust yourself after you’ve betrayed yourself. Yeah, I
- [Mistakes: The Gift of F*cking Up](https://rachelskye.com/mistakes-the-gift-of-fcking-up/) - Let’s talk about mistakes. The gut-wrenching, soul-scorching, “WTF was I thinking?” kind. Yeah—those. The kind that make you question everything. Your judgment. Your worth. Your sanity. The ones that knock the wind out of you and leave you face-down in the mud. But here’s the truth no one wants to admit: Mistakes are sacred. They’re
- [Mental Health Isn’t Your Get-Out-of-Life-Free Card](https://rachelskye.com/mental-health-isnt-your-get-out-of-life-free-card/) - It feels like everywhere you turn these days, someone has a mental health diagnosis. And let’s be clear: it’s real. Anxiety, depression, ADHD, trauma—they’re all real, and they’re tough. But let me tell you what they’re not: an excuse to check out of life. That’s right, boo. You can’t just throw your hands up and
- [Resilience Is Not A Flex](https://rachelskye.com/resilience-is-not-a-flex/) - So Alysa Liu won Olympic gold. At 20 years old, she's standing on that podium, medal around her neck, and the internet is losing its shit calling her "resilient." And look I get it. The comeback story is irresistible. The narrative practically writes itself: young skater leaves the sport at 16. Walks away from everything.
- [Why You Feel Stuck (and what to do about it)](https://rachelskye.com/why-you-feel-stuck-and-what-to-do-about-it/) - I feel stuck. That's a phrase I've been hearing a lot lately from my clients. The mom who lost her identity after kids. The woman in her late 30s who's not where she thought she'd be by now. The one who knows something needs to change but can't seem to make it happen. They all
- [You Didn't Lose Yourself (Here's what really happened)](https://rachelskye.com/you-didnt-lose-yourself-heres-what-really-happened/) - I feel like I've been having the same conversation on repeat lately. Women on my consultation calls, at some point, all say the same thing: "I feel like I lost myself." After kids. After marriage. After years of putting everyone else first. They can't remember what they like to do anymore. What music they listen
- [Embrace your age, woman!](https://rachelskye.com/embrace-your-age-woman/) - “My age is a reflection of my experiences and achievements, and I wear it with pride and gratitude.”
- [The Invisible Weight: Why Women Are Tired of Carrying It All Alone](https://rachelskye.com/the-invisible-weight-why-women-are-tired-of-carrying-it-all-alone/) - Hey, fierce ladies, let’s talk about something no one ever sees but every woman feels—the invisible weight. It’s the thing you carry every single day without anyone even noticing. It’s not the laundry or dishes (though those are no small feats)—it’s the mental gymnastics of remembering, planning, and worrying about everything. It’s the behind-the-scenes stuff
- [Your Heart Is Full Of Sh*t](https://rachelskye.com/your-heart-is-full-of-sht/) - Say what now?! You’ve heard it a million times: “the heart wants what it wants.” Sure, there’s some truth to it. But let’s be real—your heart doesn’t always know what’s good for you. Sometimes it’s led by emotions, impulses, or desires that don’t align with what you really need. That’s where your gut, your intuition,
- [Do Your Needs Matter?](https://rachelskye.com/do-your-needs-matter/) - Do you constantly feel pressured to put everyone else's needs above your own? Moms, I'm speaking to you too! I know, that you know what this feels like. God forbid you put one of your needs before your children's and be 'mom-shamed' by the PTA. But what's the problem with a mom putting everyone else's
- [Are you worth spending money on?](https://rachelskye.com/are-you-worth-spending-money-on/) - How much are you willing to spend on yourself? At what price point do you consider something to be expensive? And does that threshold change depending on who or what you're spending it on?
- [Independence & Interdependence](https://rachelskye.com/independence-interdependence/) - “I am a strong woman and I trust that it’s okay to ask for help, and I am worthy of receiving it.”
- [Success Follows Happiness...Not the Other Way Around](https://rachelskye.com/success-follows-happiness-not-the-other-way-around/) - How often do you feel the need to be successful at your job, career or goals in order to be happy? As an Enneagram 3, I struggle hard with this one! I naturally tend to measure my self worth by how successful I am at my job, achieving my goals, and receiving accolades. I thrive on
- [Challenge Your Fear: You’re in Control](https://rachelskye.com/challenge-your-fear-youre-in-control/) - Challenge fear, stress, and anxiety with confidence. Embrace gratitude, live in the moment, and reclaim control over your life. Fear doesn't stand a chance.
- [Screw the Holiday Noise: Slay the Season Your Way](https://rachelskye.com/screw-the-holiday-noise-slay-the-season-your-way/) - Ah, the holidays. That magical time of year when “your presence is a present” turns into “your presence is an obligation.” Between the parties, shopping, family drama, and endless to-do lists, it’s easy to feel like the holidays are less sleigh bells and more hell bells. But girl, we’re not doing that this year. Nope.
- [5 Ways to Release Stress Before You Snap](https://rachelskye.com/5-ways-to-release-stress-before-you-snap/)
- [How I Turn Myself On (And Why You Should Too)](https://rachelskye.com/how-i-turn-myself-on-and-why-you-should-too/) - Once upon a time, I used to save my fancy perfume and sexy underwear for "special occasions." A date night, a big event, or maybe when I just wanted to impress someone else. But somewhere along the way, I realized something that flipped the game: why the hell was I waiting for an outside reason
- [When My Body Confidence Collapsed: What Gogo Dancing Taught Me About Self-Worth](https://rachelskye.com/when-my-body-confidence-collapsed-what-gogo-dancing-taught-me-about-self-worth/) - Let me take you back for a second. Once upon a time, I was a gogo dancer. The dream job of my 20s. People think it's a glamorous job. And sure, it had its fun moments—the music, the energy, the freedom of movement. But it also taught me one of the hardest lessons about confidence
- [Fear of Rejection](https://rachelskye.com/fear-of-rejection/) - I'm kicking off this week talking about the fear of rejection. (Cue the dun dun DUN music!) Specifically speaking about interpersonal relationships--whether that's plutonic friendships or romantic partnerships. I'm currently reading a book called The Pivot Year by Brianna Wiest. (shout out to one of my FC clients Hannah for so generously gifting me with this book!) One of
- [Stop Performing. Start Feeling](https://rachelskye.com/stop-performing-start-feeling/) - Have you ever noticed this quiet pressure a lot of women carry when it comes to sex? This unspoken belief that we have to show up a certain way in bed: Flawless. Responsive. Effortlessly sexy. As if our worth is measured by how well we please someone else. I know that pressure well. In my 20s, I
- [Ask For The Things You Want](https://rachelskye.com/ask-for-the-things-you-want/) - Photo Credit: Brett Jordan
- [Waiting To Respond](https://rachelskye.com/waiting-to-respond/) - Viktor Frankl once said, "Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom." When you feel a strong emotion like anger, sadness or annoyance in response to something that has happened, don't rush to react. Give yourself the
- [Is that YOUR goal…or someone else's?](https://rachelskye.com/is-that-your-goalor-someone-elses/) - It's January 7th, which means you've probably already seen 47 posts about someone's morning routine, their ambitious reading list, and their commitment to green smoothies at 5am. And maybe—just maybe—you've felt that little twinge of "I should probably do that too." Here's where I'm gonna get real with you. That workout program you added to
- [Land the Job: How Confidence Makes You the Perfect Candidate](https://rachelskye.com/nail-that-job-interview/) - Crush your next job interview with unshakable confidence. Own the room, show your worth, and land the role you deserve. You're the perfect candidate—now act like it!
- [You're More Than Your Job](https://rachelskye.com/youre-more-than-your-job/) - How many of you identify yourself by your job title? What made me think of this was last weekend, hanging out with friends. One of them introduced me to his work friends, going around the circle with our names and job titles, as if that summed up who we are. And it got me thinking,
- [Single over 30?](https://rachelskye.com/single-over-30/) - This month I'm focusing on the false beliefs that society would us believe about women. And exposing the 💩 behind them. Starting with the false belief that if you're over the age of 30 (or some other arbitrary number) and single, that something is wrong with you or you are un-lovable. I call 💩💩!! It's
- [Don't Wait On Your Bestie To Live Your Best Life](https://rachelskye.com/dont-wait-on-your-bestie-to-live-your-best-life/) - Don't wait on your bestie to live your best life. And what do I mean by this?Working at a dance studio, I talk to lots of people on the phone about our classes. And one of the common objections I hear why someone can't sign up right now, is they're too nervous to take the
- [What is a Woman?](https://rachelskye.com/what-is-a-woman/) - Do you ever feel like society's expectations of a woman are pulling you away from who you really are? Trust me girl, I know the feeling. I’m constantly getting side-eyed by people (hello, family!) for not playing by the “rules” of what a woman “should” be, look like, or want. And I know I’m not
- [Why Confident Women Decide Faster (And Regret Less)](https://rachelskye.com/why-confident-women-decide-faster-and-regret-less/) - The real reason you can't make a decision—and what to do about it Confident women decide faster. Not because they have magical clarity. Not because they know something you don't. Not because they've unlocked some secret decision-making superpower while you're making pro-con lists at 2am like a masochist. They decide faster because they trust themselves
- [Let's Talk About Trust Bae-Bee](https://rachelskye.com/lets-talk-about-trust-bae-bee/) - Let’s talk about trust in romantic relationships. If you find yourself policing who your partner can and can’t talk to or follow on social media, then why are you in a relationship with this person? Trusting your partner to make their own choices is a sign of a mature and healthy partnership. Okay so say
- [Turning Jealousy Into Power](https://rachelskye.com/turning-jealousy-into-power/) - Feel jealous? It's time to flip the script. Turn that jealousy into power, inspiration, and support for other women. You’ve got nothing to prove.
- [Why You Feel Jealous of Women Like Sydney Sweeney (And How to Break Free)](https://rachelskye.com/why-you-feel-jealous-of-women-like-sydney-sweeney-and-how-to-break-free/) - There’s been a lot of noise lately about a certain American Eagle ad featuring Sydney Sweeney. Some people are calling it propaganda. Others are calling it problematic. But you know what I felt when I saw it? Nothing. Not because I don’t have opinions. But because I’m not threatened. I’m not shaken by another woman’s
- [Are You The Mean Boss?](https://rachelskye.com/are-you-the-mean-boss/) - Photo credit: Kelly Sikkema
- [What Keeps You Turned On When Life Gets Tough?](https://rachelskye.com/what-keeps-you-turned-on-when-life-gets-tough/) - Let’s talk about staying turned on—not just in the bedroom, but in life. When shit hits the fan, when your energy is drained, when the world tries to tame you, how do you keep that fire burning? How do you stay emotionally, mentally, and creatively lit up instead of numbing out or playing small? The
- [When Your Own Family Doesn't Accept You: How to Silence Their Opinions and Choose Yourself](https://rachelskye.com/when-your-own-family-doesnt-accept-you-how-to-silence-their-opinions-and-choose-yourself/) - I just got off the phone with a woman who told me something that broke my heart. She's never felt accepted by her family because of her weight. She has a thinner sister. And her family—not overtly, not cruelly, but consistently—favors the sister. Better treatment. More pride. More approval. It's subtle enough that if she
- [Are Our New Years Resolutions B.S.?!](https://rachelskye.com/are-our-new-years-resolutions-b-s/) - I'll be honest, I'm not a fan of new years resolutions. Why, you may ask? Because I'm not interested in using the new year as an excuse to give up on last year's goals all in the name of starting "fresh" in the new year. This doesn't mean that I'm against setting goals. By all
- [Love Yourself Fiercely This Valentine’s Day (and Every Day)](https://rachelskye.com/love-yourself-fiercely-this-valentines-day-and-every-day/) - Happy Valentine’s Day! Today’s Hallmark holiday is the perfect reminder to shower yourself with as much love—if not more—as you give to everyone else. But let’s be honest: fully loving every part of ourselves can sometimes feel like a tall order, right? Especially those parts of us we feel shame or embarrassment about. Let’s rewrite
- [Love Thy Neighbor as Thyself: Are You Missing the Point?](https://rachelskye.com/love-thy-neighbor-as-thyself-are-you-missing-the-point/) - Ever heard that Bible verse, “Love thy neighbor as thyself”? You’ve probably seen it painted on a piece of distressed driftwood at a conservative home goods store, right? It’s one of those warm-and-fuzzy phrases that sounds good but, let’s be real—do we ever stop to think about what it really means? I’ve been reading through
- [How to Embrace and Love Your Changing Body Through Every Stage of Life](https://rachelskye.com/how-to-embrace-and-love-your-changing-body-through-every-stage-of-life/) - Learn to embrace and love your changing body at every stage. Discover self-acceptance tips, including a body scan exercise, to reconnect and boost confidence.
- [The Truth About Pleasure: It’s Not a Luxury, It’s a Lifeline](https://rachelskye.com/the-truth-about-pleasure-its-not-a-luxury-its-a-lifeline/) - Pleasure is a Birthright, Not a Reward Somewhere along the line, women got the message that we have to earn our pleasure.Get all your work done.Take care of everyone else first.Be good. Be productive. Be responsible.Then — and only then — can you take a bubble bath, rest, read a spicy book, or enjoy something
- [You Don't Need More Self-Help](https://rachelskye.com/you-dont-need-more-self-help/) - Be honest. How many self-help books are currently stacked on your nightstand? How many podcasts have you saved under “must listen”? How many courses have you bought, convinced this one will finally change everything? And yet… here you are. Same patterns. Same struggles. Same spiral of doubt, fear, or exhaustion. Here’s a hard truth wrapped
- [3 Signs You're Ambitious...But Still Lack Confidence](https://rachelskye.com/3-signs-youre-ambitious-but-still-lack-confidence/) - There’s a version of me most people will never believe existed. The woman who could crush a career goal without blinking...but would completely fold when it came to asking a man for what she wanted. I could walk into a networking event full of business entrepreneurs and investors, charm their pants off (not literally), make
- [From Consuming to Connecting: Reclaim Your Body and Embody Joy](https://rachelskye.com/from-consuming-to-connecting-reclaim-your-body-and-embody-joy/) - When you can get a date online by simply swiping right, shop online with 2-day delivery, have food delivered to your house from your favorite restaurant, it’s easy to say we live in a convenient, consumerist environment. We’ve become accustomed to instant gratification. No waiting, no processing, no nourishing. This impacts our ability to fully
- [What Provocative Clothing Really Says About a Woman](https://rachelskye.com/what-provocative-clothing-really-says-about-a-woman/)
- [Your Body's Not Up For Holiday Discussion](https://rachelskye.com/your-bodys-not-up-for-holiday-discussion/) - It's happening right now at holiday tables everywhere. You're reaching for seconds, and someone says, "Wow, someone's hungry!" You decline dessert, and you hear, "Oh, are you on a diet?" You're literally just existing in your body, minding your own business, and a relative feels entitled to comment on what you're eating, how you look,
- [Why the Same Problems Keep Showing Up in Your Life (And How to Break the Cycle)](https://rachelskye.com/why-the-same-problems-keep-showing-up-in-your-life-and-how-to-break-the-cycle/) - Have you ever noticed how the same heartbreaks, challenges, or frustrating situations keep showing up in your life? Different relationship. Same emotional dynamic. Different job. Same burnout. Different friend group. Same feeling of being overlooked. At some point you start wondering if you’re just unlucky. But the truth is something most people never say out
- [Setting Boundaries Doesn't Mean Losing People](https://rachelskye.com/setting-boundaries-doesnt-mean-losing-people/) - I want to share a personal story with you about a time when I had to set a boundary with a very close friend—and how terrified I was to do it. I was working with a new client, and honestly, I was nervous. I was still finding my footing, so I asked this friend for
- [Do You Really Have to Forgive to Heal?](https://rachelskye.com/do-you-really-have-to-forgive-to-heal/) - You’ve heard it before: “You have to forgive them—not for them, but for you.” I've even said that. And sometimes, that’s absolutely true. But sometimes it’s not that simple. I wanna pull apart that idea—and get honest about when forgiveness actually frees us… and when it’s just spiritual bypassing dressed up as healing. When Forgiveness Does Set
- [Feeling Sexy in Your Body: Why It’s the Ultimate Confidence Barometer](https://rachelskye.com/feeling-sexy-in-your-body-why-its-the-ultimate-confidence-barometer/) - Discover why feeling sexy in your body is the ultimate confidence barometer—and how to realign when you lose that magnetic spark.
- [Overcoming Fear: The Key to Making Bold Moves in Life](https://rachelskye.com/overcoming-fear-the-key-to-making-bold-moves-in-life/) - You know that little voice in your head that says, “Maybe later… probably not… what if I fail?” That’s fear. It shows up in the small stuff, the big stuff, and everything in between. And here’s the thing: fear isn’t there to stop you. It’s there to point you toward the growth, freedom, or opportunity
- [Why Predators Avoid Women Who Stand Tall in Their Power](https://rachelskye.com/why-predators-avoid-women-who-stand-tall-in-their-power/) - A student recently told me I have “tall energy.” I laughed because I’m all of 4-foot-nothing. But I get it. The way I carry myself makes me feel like a f*cking Amazon woman! Men on the street have literally told me they wouldn’t want to mess with me. And honestly...I take that as a compliment.😏 I
- [The Difference Between Confidence and Arrogance—and Why It Matters](https://rachelskye.com/the-difference-between-confidence-and-arrogance-and-why-it-matters/) - I can’t tell you how many women I’ve coached who’ve said some version of this: “I don’t want to come across as full of myself.”“I don’t want to sound cocky.”“I just want to stay humble.” And girl, I get it. We’ve been conditioned to believe that confidence equals arrogance. That if we walk into a room
- [Why Trying to Be Perfect Won’t Make You Confident](https://rachelskye.com/why-trying-to-be-perfect-wont-make-you-confident/) - We’ve been sold a lie. We’re told that if we just work hard enough, prepare long enough, fix every flaw, and present ourselves perfectly… then we’ll finally feel confident. But perfectionism doesn’t create confidence. It creates pressure. Anxiety. Self-monitoring. And this quiet belief that “I’m not allowed to be seen until I’m flawless.” Which is
- [Healing ≠ Self-abandonment](https://rachelskye.com/healing-≠-self-abandonment/) - Let me be real with you: there’s this sneaky lie floating around in the personal development world… That if you’re really “conscious” or “healed,” you’ll stay calm, give endless grace, and hold space for every person who crosses a line — because they’re just wounded too. I call bullsh*t. Yes, you can be conscious. Yes,
- [Stop Being Nice: The Truth About People-Pleasing and Self-Worth](https://rachelskye.com/stop-being-nice-the-truth-about-people-pleasing-and-self-worth/) - Let’s have some real talk about this “being nice” thing. Somewhere along the way, you were taught to play nice. Don’t complain. Don’t rock the boat. Don’t make anyone uncomfortable. Maybe it was to keep the peace in your family. Maybe it was how you avoided conflict or earned approval. Maybe you just thought being
- [How to Overcome Fear of Judgment and Show Up Authentically](https://rachelskye.com/how-to-overcome-fear-of-judgment-and-show-up-authentically/) - I see so many women dull their edges because they’re afraid of being judged. And you know what? They’re not wrong—there is a risk in showing your real self. Judgment might come. Rejection might sting. But here’s the deal: judgment isn’t the real fear. The fear underneath is far deeper. It’s the fear of rejection, fear of abandonment, the fear that
- [How to Start a Self-Touch Practice (Even If You Feel Awkward)](https://rachelskye.com/how-to-start-a-self-touch-practice-even-if-you-feel-awkward/) - When most people hear the term “self-touch,” they think sex, right? But here’s the truth...self-touch is so much more than sexual. It’s one of the simplest, most powerful ways to deepen your self-worth. We spend so much of our lives in our bodies…but not with them. We rush through showers. We lotion up in 10 seconds. We only really notice our
- [Is Your Confidence Intimidating… or Are They Just Uncomfortable?](https://rachelskye.com/is-your-confidence-intimidating-or-are-they-just-uncomfortable/) - Let’s talk about a truth most confident women know too damn well: Sometimes, when you show up clear, bold, and unapologetically you… People get uncomfortable. They might call you intimidating. Too much. Unapproachable. “Full of yourself.” Or my personal favorite — “scary.” Let’s call that what it really is: projection. When a woman owns her
- [The Secret Shame Women Carry in the Bedroom](https://rachelskye.com/the-secret-shame-women-carry-in-the-bedroom/) - She’s one of the most beautiful women I know. I mean drop-dead gorgeous. Glowing skin. Curves for days. That kind of magnetism that makes people do double takes. But she only has sex with the lights off. And never, ever lets her boyfriend see her completely naked. She says she “just doesn’t feel comfortable.” It’s
- [You Can’t Turn a Hoe Into a Housewife…?](https://rachelskye.com/you-cant-turn-a-hoe-into-a-housewife/) - I saw this phrase the other day on Instagram: “You can’t turn a hoe into a housewife.” It’s one of those lines that gets tossed around like truth. Loaded with judgment. Laced with shame. Usually spoken by a man who wants a woman sexy enough to seduce him—but pure enough to keep. And let’s be
- [How to Stop Apologizing for Existing](https://rachelskye.com/how-to-stop-apologizing-for-existing/) - Let’s talk about one of the most exhausting habits too many of us are guilty of: apologizing for existing. Raise your hand if you’ve ever said “sorry” when someone bumped into you. Or whispered “sorry” before asking a completely valid question. Or minimized your success so someone else wouldn’t feel uncomfortable. Yep. Same. Here’s the
- [Why Forcing Growth Doesn’t Work (And What to Do Instead)](https://rachelskye.com/why-forcing-growth-doesnt-work-and-what-to-do-instead/) - Let me say something loud for the perfectionists in the back: Not every season is meant for climbing mountains. Sometimes, the most powerful thing you can do is sit your booty down and breathe. But society doesn’t like that, does it? We glorify the grind, worship the hustle, and throw shade at anything that smells
- [Boundaries Aren’t Bitchy—They’re Badass](https://rachelskye.com/boundaries-arent-bitchy-theyre-badass/) - Let’s get one thing straight ladies: boundaries isn’t a dirty word. They’re a damn power move. But somehow, the world still gets them all twisted. Let’s clear up some common 💩, shall we? Misconception #1: “Setting boundaries makes you mean.” Wrong. Boundaries don’t make you mean—they make you CLEAR. You’re not a villain for saying,
- [Receiving vs. Taking: Stop Grabbing, Start Glowing](https://rachelskye.com/receiving-vs-taking-stop-grabbing-start-glowing/) - Discover the powerful difference between receiving vs. taking—and how shifting your energy from hustle to trust can change everything. It’s time to stop grabbing and start glowing.
- [When Boundaries Backfire: Why ‘Protecting Your Peace’ Isn’t Working](https://rachelskye.com/when-boundaries-backfire-why-protecting-your-peace-isnt-working/) - Ladies, let’s talk about boundaries — the sexy personal growth tool that everyone from your therapist to your TikTok feed is telling you to set. “Protect your peace!” “Cut them off if they cross the line!” “If they don’t respect your boundaries, they don’t deserve you!” Sure, boundaries are essential. They keep you sane, protect
- [The Relationship That Made Me Question My Worth](https://rachelskye.com/the-relationship-that-made-me-question-my-worth/) - I was in deep. Fresh out of a 9-year relationship, I jumped into something new—something that felt electric, intense, right. I thought I had found my person. Those first couple of months? A freakin' dopamine trip. But here’s the thing about the honeymoon phase: it fades. And when it did, so did he. At first,
- [She vs. She: when we judge her, we’re really judging ourselves.](https://rachelskye.com/she-vs-she-when-we-judge-her-were-really-judging-ourselves/) - I was on my way to meet up with some girlfriends for a fun girls night out, feeling like an absolute goddess. I was rocking a deep-V bodysuit and genie pants. (And if you have no idea what that looks like, imagine a jumpsuit, with an open chest and slits down the sides of the
- [Push Past the Fear: Why Your "Why" is the Key to Breaking Through](https://rachelskye.com/push-past-the-fear-why-your-why-is-the-key-to-breaking-through/) - Fear. We’ve all felt it—that tightness in your chest, the nagging inner voice whispering, “What if you fail? What will people think? What if you’re just not enough?” It’s the weight that holds you back from going after the things you want most. But here’s the thing about fear: it’s just noise. Temporary. Distracting. It
- [How Failure Fuels Your Confidence](https://rachelskye.com/how-failure-fuels-your-confidence/) - Let’s start with a loaded question: how can failure play a positive role in your life? Sit with that for a moment, Tigress. Let it simmer. Now, let me drop some truth: failure can be one of the most powerful tools for building confidence. Yes, failure. That uninvited frenemy who crashes your plans and spills
- [Expired Relationships](https://rachelskye.com/expired-relationships/) - Let's talk about the relationships in our lives. How do you know if you are you attached to a relationship that has gone stale? Let's explore some scenarios... ⛔Do you feel like you cannot be open and honest with this person, that you cannot share your real thoughts and feelings? Kinda feels like you're walking on eggshells. ⛔Do
- [The Balance of Yes's & No's](https://rachelskye.com/the-balance-of-yess-nos/) - Let's start off the new year strong and lean into our intuition. What do I mean? I'm sure you already know that saying yes all the time can lead to feelings of burnout, and saying no all the time can prevent us from making connections and exploring new opportunities. So how do you know when
- [From 'Pick-Me' to Powerful: Choosing Intentionally in Love and Life](https://rachelskye.com/from-pick-me-to-powerful-choosing-intentionally-in-love-and-life/) - So...let's talk about 'Pick-me' behavior. Specifically the difference between being chosen from a place of intention, verses being chosen out of convenience. A couple of weeks ago I saw this funny Instagram reel of a woman dancing in a club with 'Shrek' dancing up behind her--unbeknownst to her. And her friends begin to signal to her
- [Stop Letting Your Mistakes Define You](https://rachelskye.com/stop-letting-your-mistakes-define-you/) - Ladies, let’s get real for a second. How many times have you looked at yourself and thought, Wow, I really screwed that up. Guess I’m just a failure? Maybe you forgot to pick up your kid from soccer practice (hi, guilty as charged), or made a decision that blew up in your face. It happens.
- [Sex is not a bargaining chip](https://rachelskye.com/sex-is-not-a-bargaining-chip/)
- [Your Feelings Are Not Fact](https://rachelskye.com/your-feelings-are-not-fact/) - Hi Tigress! I’m going to drop a bomb on you today: your feelings are not facts. Emotions are powerful, but they don’t always tell the truth. They’re merely giving you feedback about something or a situation. Here’s an example: just because you feel unloved after a tough conversation doesn’t mean you are unloved. And on
- [Sexuality and Shame In Women](https://rachelskye.com/your-sexuality-is-what-makes-you-human/) - Let me share a story with you... I grew up in a religious family. I grew up believing that I needed to wait until I was married to experience sex. While that is a nice, idyllic thought, I felt an immense amount of shame because of it that followed me through to my thirties. You see, I've felt
- [Turn Yourself On](https://rachelskye.com/turn-yourself-on/) - This week, let's talk about how YOU can turn YOURSELF on. 💡 TRUTH BOMB! 💥 You do not need someone else in order to be turned on or to feel turned. You can do that all by yourself girl! Sure, it feels good to be turned on by someone else. But you hold the power
- [Are You A Loose Woman?](https://rachelskye.com/are-you-a-loose-woman/) - I remember hearing a guy tell me this joke about loose women when I was 19 years old…”it’s like throwing a hotdog down a hallway and hoping to hit one of the walls.” You might be wondering what in the heck am I talking about here. There is a myth that if a woman has
- [Are You The Nice Girl Or The Bitch?](https://rachelskye.com/are-you-the-nice-girl-or-the-bitch/) - This week's false belief that I'm myth busting is the belief that women are supposed to be nice. And if we're not nice, we're considered a bitch...which is bad. I call 💩💩!! What’s ridiculous about this, is that there is a full spectrum of emotions and feelings that live between nice and bitch. And yet
- [Stop Validating Your Worth Through Other People](https://rachelskye.com/stop-validating-your-worth-through-other-people/) - I say this with all my love and care for you ladies. I know how good it feels when a person compliments you, says ‘I want you’ or ‘I love you’. We’re human. We love that hit of dopamine when someone says something nice to us. It can literally feel addicting. But do you find
- [How To Be Confident](https://rachelskye.com/how-to-be-confident/)
- [Stop Perpetuating This Harmful Narrative](https://rachelskye.com/stop-perpetuating-this-harmful-narrative/) - Today, I'm spilling some truth about a tired old narrative that's held us captive for way too damn long - the idea that a woman's worth diminishes the older she gets. As if our youth is the only currency we got. 👎 And it isn't just men perpetuating this narrative. Women have bought into it too!
- [Use Your Yes's Wisely](https://rachelskye.com/use-your-yess-wisely/) - So I've spoken about the differences between saying yes and no before. But I really just wanna drive home the repercussions of being a people pleaser. This is especially top of mind because I'm currently reading The Body Keeps The Score and we just began the Fierce Confidence spring session. It can be damaging on your body to
- [Finding Happiness in UnExpected Places](https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/episode-27-rachel-skye-finding-happiness-in-unexpected/id1538042353?i=1000513166724) - On this episode, Rachel, the proud owner or @studio_spin shares her journey about growing into greatness! She shares about leaving a nine year relationship which then opened opportunities to expand her studio, rediscover her strength and confidence and to help every woman who does a class with her, to push passed the uncomfortable and to be DARING!
- [Pole Dancing & Empowering Women](https://podcasts.apple.com/id/podcast/pole-dancing-empowering-women/id1484815555?i=1000603943257) - In today's episode, The Practical Prof®, Dr. Santo D. Marabella talks with long-time friend and artistic collaborator, Rachel Skye, about how she empowers women through pole dancing and other creative dance.
- [Canvas Rebel Interview](https://canvasrebel.com/meet-rachel-skye/) - We’re excited to introduce you to the always interesting and insightful Rachel Skye. We hope you’ll enjoy our conversation with Rachel.

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- [Women's Circle](https://rachelskye.com/womens-circle/) - The Fierce Woman’s Circle · 3rd Wednesdays · Lancaster, PA You know who you want to be. So why do you keep getting in your own way? That’s not a rhetorical question. We’re going to answer it. Grab your spot → What it is A monthly in-person gathering for women who are done shrinking, done
- [About](https://rachelskye.com/about/) - I’m Rachel. And I’m going to tell you something nobody else in this space will: confidence isn’t a mindset. It lives in your body. And until you go there, you’re leaving the best parts of yourself on the table. For the recordFierce Confidence™ coach. Christian. Master pole dance instructor. Sensual mover. Studio owner for 11
- [Work With Me](https://rachelskye.com/work-with-me/) - You’ve been holding it together for a long time. And you’re exhausted. Not burned out exhausted. Exhausted from performing. From being the most capable person in every room and still going home feeling like something’s quietly falling apart. From succeeding at a life that (if you’re honest) doesn’t fully feel like yours.That’s not a mindset
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- [Confidence Quiz](https://rachelskye.com/confidence-quiz/) - What’s REALLY Standing Between You and Unshakeable Confidence? Take the Confidence Roadblock Quiz! Take this quick, eye-opening quiz to uncover the hidden patterns, beliefs, and behaviors keeping you stuck—and learn exactly what to do next to break free. This isn’t your typical “confidence quiz.” You won’t just find out what’s blocking your confidence—you’ll get a
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