Sex is not a bargaining chip

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This topic actually came up in conversation with a male friend of mine over dinner one night. He said, “A lot of women don’t feel valuable unless they have something to offer—and in a lot of cases, that is their sexuality.”

And I tend to agree. It’s a sad reality that many of us have been conditioned to believe that our worth is tied to our physical appeal or our willingness to offer intimacy. But let’s set the record straight: sex is not a bargaining chip. Your body is not a bargaining chip. And it’s not something you need to offer up for free in order to get someone to like you.

We are so much more than that. We are strong, intelligent, creative, and compassionate individuals! Our value does not come from what we can give others physically but from who we are as people. We deserve to be loved and respected for our minds, our hearts, and our souls.

So I’ll say this again. Don’t use sex as a bargaining chip. You’re worth more than that. Remember, you are valuable simply because you are you. Embrace your worth, and never feel pressured to compromise your boundaries for anyone. Your dignity and self-respect are priceless, and the right person will see and appreciate you for who you truly are.
“I am valuable and worthy of love and respect for who I am, not for what I can give.”

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