Once upon a time, I used to save my fancy perfume and sexy underwear for “special occasions.” A date night, a big event, or maybe when I just wanted to impress someone else. But somewhere along the way, I realized something that flipped the game: why the hell was I waiting for an outside reason to feel sexy? Why was I reserving my power for someone else’s approval or attention?

Not anymore.

These days, I wake up in the morning, take a refreshing shower, and spritz on my favorite perfume—the one that makes me feel like a goddess in human form. I’ll slip into my favorite sexy panties, not because anyone’s going to see them but because I know they’re there. I’ve learned that when I turn myself on, I feel unstoppable. Seriously, when I’m in that vibe, you can’t tell me nothing.

It’s not just about the external, though. I turn myself on by moving my body. Dancing, swaying my hips, running my hands over my skin—literally reminding myself that this body is mine. I can feel the energy—the juices, (yep!)—start to flow. And you know what? That’s the kind of energy that gets shit done. It’s the energy that creates, that motivates, that transforms. This sexual energy is your creative superpower.

Now, let’s get real. If you’re feeling stuck, unmotivated, or creatively blocked, here’s my advice: go masturbate. I’m serious. And no, I don’t mean rush to the finish line like you’re trying to beat a world record. Take your time. Explore. Feel. Moms, I get it—sometimes you’re squeezing self-care into a 5-minute window before someone starts yelling for snacks. But even a little intentional pleasure can make a big difference.

When I stopped saving my “nice things” for someone else, I started to feel a kind of confidence and power that I didn’t even know was possible. Every day became a special occasion because I was the reason. I’m here to tell you that you deserve to feel good, sexy, and powerful every damn day. Not because someone else might notice, but because it changes how you feel and show up in the world.

When you’re turned on—really turned on by yourself and your life—you walk differently. You hold your head higher. You radiate a kind of confidence that people can’t help but notice. And the best part? It’s not for them. It’s for you.

So go ahead. Put on that perfume. Cover your skin in that expensive shay butter body cream. Slip into those panties. Dance around your kitchen or your bedroom. Run your hands over your curves and remind yourself that this body, this energy, this power—it’s yours. Stop waiting for someone else to light your fire. You’ve had the matches all along.

Trust me, when you turn yourself on, you’re unstoppable. And the world better watch out.

Now, tell me—what’s one thing you’re going to do today to turn yourself on? Let’s start a revolution of women who own their pleasure and their power. Because when we do? That’s when the magic happens.

Photo credit: Molnar Balint