I was in deep.
Fresh out of a 9-year relationship, I jumped into something new—something that felt electric, intense, right. I thought I had found my person. Those first couple of months? A freakin’ dopamine trip.
But here’s the thing about the honeymoon phase: it fades. And when it did, so did he.
At first, I told myself I was imagining it. The way he’d put distance between us when we were out with friends. The way he’d get just distant enough that I felt off-balance—but not distant enough for me to call him out. I started placating myself, swallowing my words, convincing myself that if I just stayed cool, if I didn’t make waves, I wouldn’t lose him.
I justified his behavior. “He’s just busy with work,” I told myself. Once his big work project is over, things will go back to normal.
Guess what? They didn’t.
He kept giving me the bare minimum. And I was so damn love-blind I didn’t even see it.
Then, one day, he casually dropped the news: Oh yeah, I want to move to LA at the end of the year.
Just like that. No “What do you think?” No “How do you feel about this?” No space for me in his future.
And even then, I was too scared to say anything.
Because I didn’t want to lose him.
Irony, right? Holding on for dear life to a man who was giving me nothing.
And then, when it was finally his turn to step up, to show me some effort, he flaked. Told me we needed a “break.” Said it would be good for both of us.
That “break” was just a layover on the way to Breakup Town.
I was wrecked. I cried so hard my asthma flared up—first asthma attack since I was a kid. That’s how much I let this man wreck me.
But here’s what I didn’t see at the time: He gave me a gift.
Because I didn’t have the guts to walk away. And if he hadn’t ended it, who knows how much longer I would’ve let myself settle for crumbs.
They say your mistakes are your best teachers. But you know what’s better? Learning from someone else’s mistakes—so you don’t have to make the same damn ones!
That’s why I created Fierce Confidence™.
Because if I had the confidence I have now, I wouldn’t have wasted one more second on a man who wasn’t meeting me at my level. I wouldn’t have kept quiet, made myself small, or begged for the bare minimum.
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