Let’s talk about staying turned on—not just in the bedroom, but in life. When shit hits the fan, when your energy is drained, when the world tries to tame you, how do you keep that fire burning? How do you stay emotionally, mentally, and creatively lit up instead of numbing out or playing small?
The truth? Most people don’t. They go into autopilot. They lose themselves in the grind, the expectations, the damn emotional weight of it all. They disconnect from what makes them feel alive. But that’s not us. We don’t do mediocre. We don’t do dimmed down.
So, here’s the rebellious way to keep yourself turned on when life gets tough:
1. Feel It All, Then Alchemize It
Society tells us to shove down our feelings. Be “positive.” Stay “grateful.” But let’s be real—sometimes life sucks, and the only way through it is through it. Let yourself feel the frustration, the rage, the sadness. Then take that raw energy and turn it into something powerful: dance, scream, paint, move, write, build. Stop letting your emotions rot inside you—use them to create.
2. Reclaim Your Body’s Pleasure
When life gets rough, most people disconnect from their body. They stop stretching, stop touching, stop breathing deeply. They live from the neck up—just floating heads drowning in stress. Not us. We reclaim our pleasure. We move in ways that feel delicious. We take hot showers like they’re a sacred ritual. We let our fingertips explore our skin like we’re our own lovers. Pleasure isn’t just about sex—it’s about staying in your body when life tries to rip you out of it.
3. Fuck Perfection—Create Anyway
Creativity is one of the most potent ways to stay turned on, but too many people let perfectionism choke the life out of it. The world doesn’t need another carefully curated, polished-to-death version of you. It needs your raw, messy, unfiltered expression. So write the damn thing. Sing off-key. Make art that no one will see. The act of creating—not the outcome—is what keeps the fire alive.
4. Surround Yourself With Energy That Feeds You
You are not a dumpster. Stop letting people dump their drama, negativity, and soul-sucking energy onto you. Find people who turn you on—emotionally, mentally, creatively. Women who speak fire into your dreams. Friends who remind you who the hell you are. Lovers who see your magic and amplify it. If your environment dulls you, change it.
5. Do The Bold Thing, Even When You’re Scared
Nothing kills your spark faster than living a life that’s too small for you. Fear is inevitable, but letting it run the show? That’s optional. The antidote? Do the damn thing anyway. Send the risky text. Make the bold ask. Speak your truth louder. Walk into the room like you own it. Fear wants you to shrink, but your fire thrives in expansion. Choose expansion every time.
Stay Turned On—No Matter What
Life will try to dim you. It’ll throw stress, heartbreak, rejection, and exhaustion at you like a goddamn storm. But you? You’re untamed. You’re fireproof. You don’t just survive—you burn brighter.
So the next time life tries to dull your shine, ask yourself: What turns me on? And then go do that. Unapologetically. Relentlessly. Because a woman fully alive is the most dangerous, unstoppable force in the world.
And if you’re ready to take this fire to the next level, my Fierce Confidence program will help you break free from fear, self-doubt, and shame—so you can own your power fully. Join us here! 🚀
Photo credit: Amauri Mejia
