Do you ever feel like society’s expectations of a woman are pulling you away from who you really are? Trust me girl, I know the feeling. I’m constantly getting side-eyed by people (hello, family!) for not playing by the “rules” of what a woman “should” be, look like, or want.

And I know I’m not alone. So many women feel pressure to fit into a mold that they didn’t even create—a mold that makes them question their worth, their identity, even their womanhood!

But here’s the thing: that “ideal woman” they keep talking about? She’s a myth. She’s as real as a unicorn at this point. The “perfect woman” is like that mouse in your kitchen that you can never seem to catch, no matter how many traps you set. It’s a moving target, a never-ending game designed to keep us constantly chasing after something impossible.

So why play along? Why waste time and energy trying to meet standards that were never meant to make you feel whole or fulfilled? Instead, let’s rewrite the script. You get to decide what being a woman means to you. What do you want? What makes you feel alive, strong, and authentic?

I’m here, owning my story at 40. I’m not married, no kids, and I don’t mind admitting I still catch judgment for it. I love Jesus and I confidently own my sexuality—yes, both can coexist! If that makes some people uncomfortable, that’s on them.

I know there are so many women feeling conflicted about this—trying to balance being true to themselves with living up to what society says they “should” be. The truth is, you can’t make everyone happy, and that’s okay.

So here’s the deal: be your own kind of woman. Define your own version of woman. Stop chasing that impossible “ideal” and start living on your own terms. Don’t waste your time trying to catch that mouse.

Step into your own power. Be your version of a woman. And don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

I define what it means to be a woman on my own terms.